Recently, a heartfelt post from our owner at Transformation Therapy Services shed light on a complex reality:
“No one prepares you for having a talk with your 10-year-old about what to do if ICE comes to his school because he has a Spanish last name 🫠 As if there isn’t enough to worry about in this world 🥴 This is our reality.”
This post highlights many parents' struggles—navigating conversations about safety, discrimination, and uncertainty with their children. These discussions are profoundly emotional but crucial for helping children process their feelings and develop resilience.
The Impact of Fear and Anxiety on Children
Children are highly perceptive and can sense when their environment feels unsafe or uncertain. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), children exposed to stressful situations, such as the fear of family separation or discrimination, are more likely to experience:
- Increased anxiety and sleep disturbances
- Difficulty concentrating in school
- Changes in behavior, such as withdrawal or aggression
These emotional responses are natural, but children can learn to manage their feelings and feel more secure with guidance.
How to Talk to Your Child About Safety and Uncertainty
🗨️ 1. Start with Open and Honest Conversations
Children often know more than we realize; silence can create more fear. Use clear, age-appropriate language to explain the situation without overwhelming them.
- Acknowledge their feelings: “I know this is scary, and it’s okay to feel that way.”
- Reassure them: Emphasize that their safety is your top priority.
According to the Child Mind Institute, children who feel they can openly discuss their fears with a parent experience lower anxiety levels.
💡 2. Empower Them with Knowledge and Preparedness
While we hope they’ll never need to use it, having a plan can make children feel more secure. Discuss safety measures calmly and clearly:
- Who to call in an emergency: Ensure they know their address, your phone number, and how to contact a trusted adult.
- What to do at school: Encourage them to follow their teacher’s instructions and seek help from a counselor if they feel scared.
- Safe words or signals: Establish a family code word that signals they should leave with someone you trust.
❤️ 3. Build Their Emotional Resilience
- Validate their feelings: Let them know that feeling worried or upset is normal.
- Model calmness: Children often mirror their parent’s emotions, so try to stay composed during conversations.
- Promote self-expression: Drawing or journaling can help children process their emotions.
🤝 4. Connect with Community and Support Networks
It’s essential for children to feel a sense of belonging and support beyond their immediate family. Participate in:
- School and neighborhood events to foster friendships and create a support system.
- Cultural organizations that celebrate their heritage and build pride in their identity.
Case Study: Supporting Mateo Through Uncertainty
Background:
Mateo, a 10-year-old boy with autism, began experiencing anxiety after overhearing news about immigration enforcement at schools. He became withdrawn, stopped participating in class, and struggled to sleep.
Approach:
Mateo’s parents, with guidance from their ABA therapist at Transformation Therapy Services, took a structured approach to help him manage his fears:
- Open Dialogue: They used social stories to explain the situation and reassure Mateo of his safety.
- Safety Plan Practice: Through role-playing, Mateo practiced what to do if he felt unsafe, which gave him a sense of control.
- Emotional Support Techniques: Therapists introduced coping skills such as deep breathing and using sensory tools during moments of anxiety.
Results
Within three months, Mateo’s teacher reported that he had returned to participating in class and was engaging with his peers again. His sleep patterns improved, and he began expressing his feelings through art. His parents noticed a significant reduction in his anxiety levels, thanks to the combination of therapy, preparation, and open communication.
The Importance of Safe and Inclusive Environments
Children should feel safe in their learning environments. According to a report from the National Education Association (NEA), students who feel secure and supported at school are:
- 54% more likely to have high academic performance
- 35% less likely to experience chronic absenteeism
- 42% more likely to engage in positive peer relationships
Schools and communities must work together to foster inclusive environments where every child feels safe and valued, regardless of their background.
How Transformation Therapy Services Supports Families Through Difficult Times
At Transformation Therapy Services, we understand that challenges like these go beyond therapy sessions. That’s why our approach includes:
- Family Support Programs: Offering workshops on managing anxiety and discussing complex topics with children.
- Social Skills Groups: Helping children build confidence, express their emotions, and develop resilience.
- Parent Training: Equipping caregivers with the tools to navigate complex conversations and support their child’s emotional well-being.
Final Thoughts: You Are Not Alone
Conversations about safety, discrimination, and uncertainty are some of the hardest a parent can have—but they are also some of the most important. By approaching these discussions with honesty, empathy, and preparation, you help your child build resilience and feel more secure.
The reality shared by our owner is one that many families face, but through open dialogue and community support, we can help children navigate their fears and continue to thrive.
Need Guidance? We’re Here to Help.
If you’re looking for support in helping your child manage anxiety or prepare for challenging conversations, contact Transformation Therapy Services today. Our team is here to support your family with compassion, expertise, and care.
Visit us at www.transformationaba.com to schedule a consultation.
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